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I know it\u2019s been a while since I\u2019ve done a little mental health check-in on here. How have I been moving on from a breakup?<\/p>\n

Sixteen months have passed since my break up<\/a> when I felt my life fall to pieces before my eyes. And you know what? I\u2019m finally feeling really good and happy. Wow, that feels so good to write down.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve finally reached that point in the journey that I could have never imagined sixteen months ago. I\u2019m glad it happened. I feel relief, and I feel pity. Don\u2019t get me wrong; there are still things that are triggering and a few unresolved feelings, but by and large, I\u2019m feeling really good. Though I\u2019m definitely also at that phase where I think all men are trash. Not sure I\u2019ll ever get over that, haha.<\/p>\n

When it happened, I consciously shared\u00a0my feelings<\/a> about it publicly; the bag, the growth, and hopefully, the good. This was not easy for me. When you experience that amount of pain, betrayal, and trauma, I think some ancient instinct kicks in, encouraging you to hide. My inclination was to throw my phone off a bridge and run away. With our borders in New Zealand still closed, I couldn\u2019t run far.\u00a0<\/p>\n

\"moving<\/p>\n

Like many of us, I don\u2019t like the theatrics of social media, how no one shares the mess, pain, or lessons instead of handing out wisdom and perfection afterward. I wanted people to feel seen, that I know that specific circle of hell that most of us go through at least once in our lives.\u00a0<\/p>\n

It was important to me for people to know that they weren\u2019t alone in their suffering. I was there with you. Sometimes moving on from a breakup<\/a> felt impossible.<\/p>\n

And perhaps the most surprising part? You all helped me, too; you guys really had my back. So many messages of hope and care pinged into my inbox, providing little snippets of serotonin and comfort just when I needed them. I can\u2019t thank you guys enough for that.<\/p>\n

\"moving<\/p>\n

As a profoundly pensive person, I reflect a lot on the past, especially lately.<\/p>\n

Do you know what\u2019s really wild? I don\u2019t remember most of last year<\/a>. Like, I literally can\u2019t remember where I was, what I was doing, or how I was feeling. I don\u2019t even really remember much of writing my book<\/a>! It\u2019s as if my brain chose to block out everything during those horrible months. I was half alive, just going through the motions of day by day to get me going. Then little by little, things began to flip from bad to good again.<\/p>\n

Slowly, as time went on (the only cure to a broken heart, along with a shit ton of therapy), I felt a little lighter. My eyes lifted, and I began to laugh more. I started to say yes to socializing. It took me over a year to begin to not feel like a zombie.<\/p>\n

Now I look back at least a year and don\u2019t recognize myself from last year. Who was that half-dead girl? Was it really me?<\/p>\n

\"moving<\/p>\n

Now I feel so much stronger than I have ever felt before. I\u2019ve learned some big lessons (not that I asked for them). I feel confident in a way that I haven\u2019t been for a long time \u2013 funny how being gaslit for years will do that to you. And I see so many red flags I had ignored repeatedly in my past.\u00a0<\/p>\n

There are only a few things that still really upset me. The main one is that I feel like a total failure like I wasted years of my life.<\/p>\n

Even now, sometimes I wake up crying, thinking this isn\u2019t what I imagined for myself at 34. It feels like I\u2019m starting over as I failed at life. Sometimes I still get mad at myself, thinking, \u201cyou should have done this\u201d or \u201cwhy didn\u2019t you do that.\u201d But then I stop, take a breath, and remind myself that I did my best when dealt shitty cards. Self-love is a constant process.<\/p>\n

The life I planned is gone, and it\u2019s never coming back. This is something I fight every day to make peace with. But I know it\u2019s time to let it all go and start a new chapter. And starting new chapters as you get older is scary and hard, am I right?<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve got one more big, horrible, painful, icky thing to do soon that I\u2019m dreading. Deep breaths. Big gulps. I\u2019ve got this. You\u2019ve got this. We\u2019ve all got this. Now let\u2019s fucking go!<\/p>\n

What are your tips for moving on from a breakup? I\u2019m curious. Share!<\/em><\/p>\n

\"moving<\/p>\n

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